Ok, I’m not really breaking ALL the rules of blogging. I’m totally fine with rules like “don’t plagiarize” and use good grammar (most days) and practice the Golden Rule…these are the kinds of rules that come from, and generate, a healthy self-respect and a respect for others.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me…Is it just me? It is just hard to say the word, without hearing the song in my head (but thank you, Aretha Franklin, for helping me with spellcheck today).
Anyhoo, I’ve been blogging since 2011, and believe it or not, that makes me kind of a blog grandma in some circles. They say a new blog is being created every HALF second! Amazing. More and more creators and writers, all clamoring for readers.
All this time has passed and my blog is still flying well under the radar. Pretty sure, it always will. That means I have a small subscriber list, and a smaller number of readers (like tiny). Over the years, I have taken quite a few, QUITE A FEW, classes on how to grow your blog, how to find your voice, how to find your tribe, how to build a cartel, how to build a platform, how to be social media savvy…but none of that has moved me.
And y’all. Sometimes it makes me feel like a rule breaker.
- I don’t figure out what people want to read and write about that. I write about what God puts on my heart or what makes me go, huh? I write about what I am struggling with and what I am learning. Sometimes I write about fun stuff.
- I don’t write about controversies. I like to enjoy conversations, not provoke them.
- I don’t throw family and friends under the bus. I have painful stories. I have emotional scars. I get stuck sometimes because of what other people have done to me…but I know God is at work in all that and, if we look, we can find His best in the mess. I don’t share ALL the details.
- My hubby and I knock heads sometimes and he says it’s ok to talk about that, so now and again, I do. But mostly, when I share about hurts, I don’t name names. Not “transparent” enough? Probably.
- I don’t post regularly and strategically on social media…I know that I am not #worthfollowing. I am not the one who shares the fun stories, latest pics, helpful tips, and great links. I’m more of a wall flower on social media, having been burned before. I am social-media awkward and I just can’t seem to fake it till I make it. I appreciate others who are better organized and more disciplined and more natural. Some people are gifted in social media. Really. Well, bless them. But I’m not.
If you’re going to do something, you ought to do it “right,” right? Or not?
We are in a big time of transition and change around here. So I’ve been asking, What’s important? What needs to stay? Why write? Why publish? Why bother? And some days I really don’t know the answer.
But more and more, I’m feeling fine about blogging without trying to build a “tribe” or a “platform.” In a sense, I have made my own rules, ones I can live with:
- I blog because I get to interact with neat people who really get me. I have “met” some of my very favorite people online.
- I blog because my hubby wants me to write about our spiritual journey, so that our kiddos will know how we learned and grew.
- And I blog because I know that God is at work in my heart when I write and it is good the share that. I always want to honor Him in all that I do. And that’s the most important thing.
Technically, it’s no way to “be successful” online. But that’s alright.
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