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In a month and a half a dear friend of mine is getting married. They actually have a really sweet love story that began when they were 12. The Lord has blessed this couple immensely and it’s beautiful watching them love each other and their Savior.
This last week we celebrated this young woman’s journey into marriage by showering her with love, gifts, and wisdom. All of us bridesmaids got to meet each other and get to know each other better. Pretty soon we will all gather around again to lift her up into marriage. It’s coming soon. It’ll come faster than she realizes. In a matter of weeks she will no longer be wearing white and she will start settling into life, marriage, and sanctification at it’s finest.
But she will still need to be lifted up.
We all do. We need to be reminded that our marriages are normal. It’s normal to argue. It’s normal to be annoyed. It’s normal to start the day with a harsh word, agonize over it when you’re apart, struggle through dinner, and go to bed upset. It’s normal. You’re a normal wife. What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it? (Romans 6:1-2)
Unfortunately, sin in marriage is normal. Paul David Tripp says “The DNA of sin is selfishness.”
But we can’t stop there. I encourage you, beautiful married woman of God, keep going. Don’t rest until you find a place of forgiveness forgiving your husband and seek God’s forgiveness for yourself. Allow God’s Word to sanctify you. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you (James 4:10).
And beautiful engaged women of God, don’t be discouraged when things happen to change. Your relationship will go through a lot of changes after you say your vows. You’ll start to see your spouse in a different light. You’ll question if getting married was the right thing to do. You’ll be irritated by things that were once the most adorable things in the world. But the biggest change that will happen: your love will grow deeper.
By being together more often you will start to sharpen each other. You both play a huge part of each other’s sanctification process. The Lord will use both of you to make the other one more holy.
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
I pray that we can all remember that we are not alone. Engaged women, you will not be alone. Married ladies, you are not alone. Millions of brides stand with you. As you say your vows or remember them, have a sense of confidence that you are walking in the paved path of many before you.
Ask for help.
Don’t give up.
Walk in humility.
You can do it.
You’re not alone.
Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Thessalonians 5:23).